Probably much like yourself I have been getting a barrage of ideas to make resolutions for the New Year become a reality. I do believe that when we resolve to do something, we are making a commitment to ourselves to the number one person on the list. What gets in the way of these promises we make to ourselves, to all those ideas, new experiences, change in diet, exercise and time management? I believe they go the way of the many things in life that become side swiped by stress and distraction. So my resolve is to highlight my POMS. My Peace of Mind Strategies.
Peace of Mind Strategies keep me accountable to my inner wisdom, which I know I have and well. I know you have it too. Inner wisdom is our compass in life that supports the best choices, the most reliable direction that lead us to the good life or feeling whole and fulfilled.
So more than anything else that you have told yourself that you would take care of this year, I’d like to suggest that each day you spend a moment with YOU, considering what POMS would make today a great day. What would some of those strategies be for me?
To remember that:
Time Blocks work best for me. I get more accomplished when I match my energy to the task (or commitment) and block the time in my schedule. That way it gets out of my head and into a place holder in my calendar. Even that gives me peace of mind.
Doing something is better than doing nothing. I am prone to overthinking so my POMS for that is to do something, take any kind of action (even teeny ones) that allow my overthinking mind to shift. That might be making a pros and cons list regarding a choice or challenge. Creating a timeline for a project or a mind map to look at all the steps involved in a creative idea, an event, or a family commitment. Writing down the questions I have whirling in my head is super helpful. I don’t need to know the answers right now, but giving voice to the questions seems to allow the answers to surface when I am least expecting it. Once I take some kind of action it usually helps me to shake it out of my head with a walk or a small burst of yoga postures.
Less is more. When I review what I have going on in a day, week, month or year, I frequently have to realistically look at what I’m able to do without making myself crazy. A good example is while working on my new website this past fall, I chose to let go of some program ideas I had. It would have been too much on my plate and instead of enjoying my creative energy I would have been stressed and aggravated. No thanks, been there done that. The less is more POMS is one that takes practice, a mindful outlook on appreciating what is happening Now and filling our well with that experience.
Communicate. This POMS was highlighted in a recent coaching session with a client that said the best peace of mind strategy for him in his relationship was to keep open and updated communication with his wife. He regularly fills his wife in on what his plans are, what his timeline is and what he hopes to get accomplished rather than keeping it to himself. He also lets her know in advance what is not going to be happening. Easier than making promises that won’t be kept.
PEACE OF MIND
Something we are all seeking that can lead to a fuller appreciation of who we are and how we want to live.