A while back I had fully intended to write Part II of my blog about moving through transitions. Well, I’m in transition, so it didn’t happen as quickly as I liked. I had to let that item on my list go into the “not now” file. I have been thinking about what I would write, how I would share with you my own realizations as I’ve been finding my way (still amidst boxes, construction dust and playing lost and found with belongings) rather circuitously to a comfortable place in my life. What I can share so far are 5 things that you may also find helpful in keeping a transition perspective.
- Sit with your emotions. So often we sweep our experiences under the carpet, not giving our feelings their due. Observe what is coming up for you, let it just be without trying to fix it or judge the emotions. At the same time, it’s a good idea to direct your energy towards the positive. What can you do to invest in the process? Remember that great saying by Mahatma Gandi, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” Maybe there is one thing that would make your transition a little sweeter, simpler, with an outcome that reminds you how you want to show up in life.
- Trust! Trust that your transition is part of your big life plan. There are no straight lines in your That would be boring and you wouldn’t gain a speck of insight, find your courageous side or learn from your challenges. I know it doesn’t always feel good but trust that you will be stronger, more resilient and maybe a bit savvier on the other side.
- Own your story. I recently attended the MA Conference for Women in Boston. Viola Davis gave a riveting keynote regarding owning your story. Know where you come from, share your experiences, and don’t be shamed by life’s traumas or imperfections. Speak your truth but don’t let your truth become your barrier to greatness. She was incredible. Such a passionate woman.
- Journal the whole deal! When we write things down, our writing has a remarkable influence on our brains. So use this as a way to mark your progress. What things will you learn in the process? Where might it help you to grow? Are there new skills, relationship growth or financial stability that will come from this. Back to #1. “Direct your energy towards the positive.”
- This belongs to you. Transitions are a part of your own inner path. Remind yourself that if you try to replicate the experience of someone else, the result may not be in your own highest good. While we can benefit from the advice from others, it’s mostly helpful to be grateful for what is offered and sift out what works best for you in your situation. We are all unique to our own experience.
And at the end of every day, and I mean every day, I jot down all I am grateful for. Thank you to my daughter in law Rachel for giving me this bedside notepad to keep my mindful.